Second Life: Finding Virtual Sex

It seems the Lab is rather reserved about listing the sex places in SL. Again, understandable. And it seems there are no handy lists.

World Map

So, how do we find interesting places with fun adult activities? The World Map is another source but, It too is way less than ‘good’. Open it and type in sex, you get about a dozen places. There no regions with RLV in the name. Only about a half-dozen with the word adult in the name. Three with the word bondage and 2 with BDSM.

Most people don’t name their regions to fit the names into categories. So, this isn’t as good a resource as we could hope.

One of the advantages of using the World Map is you can see how many people are in a region before teleporting in.


So, are there any blogs or sites that provide information on where to get your kink on? Sort of.

A totally NSFW site is Second Life Adventures, Caroline… I think, is the author or at least writes the majority of articles for the site. Not quite clear who owns the site. It covers virtual world sex, in Second Life and elsewhere.

She reviews three sex games. (Comparing Sex Games: Second Life, Thrixxx and 3DXChat) Surprisingly… or maybe not so surprisingly, Second Life comes out on top… umm… in the ratings… for locations. But, loses out on graphics quality and animations. The other two are professionally made.  3DXChat has an amazing animation system. I can’t put those videos on this site because of my advertising agreements. But, OMG!


When it comes to meeting people SL wins again. SL is best for socializing and flirting. Caroline thinks SL is better because it is NOT ‘sex centered’. Who would have thought?

Second Life loses in the Availability category. I’m actually not surprised. The win-lose factor for this category centers around how people use the ‘Wanna F_ck?” phrase. In Thrixx that is about the only thing that works as pickup lines are not really necessary. The only thing to do on Thrixx is have sex. I suppose that would be a relief to many guys. But, it produces poor results in SL. In SL it often takes some effort to chat up a person and get them in the sack.

Asking if ‘You wanna have some fun?’ is not any better. Personally I’ve decided that either of these lines means the person needs someone to provide pixels and isn’t going to put any real effort or consideration into what I want.

When she gets to cost she didn’t pick a clear winner. She did conclude that if you JUST want sex Thrixx is it. If you want some chat with your sex then 3DXChat. For everything else… Second Life.

Whatever, it makes for an interesting read. But, is the blog going to get you a list of places… or names? Only as a byproduct of discussions about various aspects of virtual sex. Caroline does write a good beginners guide: Let’s Talk About Sex.

The type of site that keeps one up to date on the happenings in the adult side of SL doesn’t seem to exist. There are some sites like Second Life Adventures, The Pornstars blog, and Slut Magazine (a blog with a complicated organization/navigation) that are sexually oriented.

▷Pleased To Meet You uu:p

Pleased To Meet You

But, they are not into listing places. They are more like People Magazine or Vogue… They often try to come up with the ‘hawt’ photography. But, there just aren’t a lot of got good photographers doing porn. Strawberry Singh does amazing, sexy photography, call it ART, but, by no means is it porn. Most of the porn photography is by no means art. Sad.

Reddit is always a good source of user provided information. But, searching the r/SecondLife subreddit… sex is not an active subject. Nor any of the related keywords; RLV, adult, role play…


For as much publicity as SL sex gets, it is still a problem finding sex. You can find sex places but, they aren’t as prominent as one would expect. Nor are there fresh or complete lists of places. Google, Yahoo, Bing, DuckDuckGo, and others turn up way more old stuff than new. This suggests less is being written about SL’s adult content than in the past.

Our best sources for finding new adult areas are the SL Destination Guide and, while hard to use, Tyche Shepherd’s Grid Survey.

My collection of adult information for Second Life is here: Second Life Adult Content.

13 thoughts on “Second Life: Finding Virtual Sex

  1. Something tells me when it come to finding something that doesn’t really come up on search result are often found through words-of-the-mouth or friends.

  2. hii about the hotel.. the actors arent bots.. i’m one of them.. no avi bots but the npcs are obvious.

  3. Well, we at Slut Magazine don’t list destinations for sex because I haven’t been to one in over 8 years. My houses are loaded with sex crap (as we call the furniture and stuff). Sex isn’t hard to find for people in the “industry”, it generally finds you.

    As, for photographers, we approached Strawberry Singh to shoot some pornstars for us nude; but, she respectfully declined. Crista Wellens (chillicalifornia), a noted fashionista is one of our contributing editors. Few, if anyone is shooting better stuff in Second Life than her.

    Second Life is more of a world than a game. So, one needs to get out, explore and socialize if you want to find anything, including sex, in it. I’d say. Good luck.

    [Link by Nal:]

    • Thanks for saying.

      I see Crista Wellens’ work on FLickr. Nice. She has sharing on. So, you’ll probably see some of her art appear here from time to time.

      Many of the porn pictures I see look like the old paper comics or something from 2008. With the graphics we have in SL now I expect something more like the art in graphics novels. What’s going on there?

  4. Well for once I wish my site were more navigable hehehehehehe. We’ve got great stuff there.

    However, on the whole I agree with you. I think the best photogs in SL are shooting high fashion. At, least their aesthetic is different and their artistry a bit higher than the average pornographic photographer. I also think the most beautiful women are pornstars. I’ve made it a bit of a mini crusade to get high fashion photogs to shoot pornstars and porn photogs to shoot fashion models. A wedding of these two worlds will elevate the level of nudie pix in Second Life 🙂

    • Yeah, I have trouble navigating your site… Web designers like to do new things. Think about designing the same site… over and over and over… But, site users hate figuring out new user interfaces. Many sites went with a standard magazine or blog format because people knew how to use those. Creating something new and USABLE… challenging.

      I think you have a good idea for improving the quality of porn photography. I think a significant challenge is often the photographers are the ones having sex and the photo is secondary… a trophy. Perhaps furniture people would be more interested in quality images. May be porn with a banner running at the bottom telling who’s animation, furniture, genitals, etc.

      I know that I have to do a lot of work to find good female sex animations. I make some animations. Planting your feet and bouncing your hips takes a knowledgeable animator. May be I should start reviewing animations…

      With Bento coming, probably in November, hands and facial expressions will get a major upgrade. Even feet may get an upgrade. Bento doesn’t do much for feet. But, the ‘hind’ legs for quadrupeds can be used for feet and toes in bipeds. So, hands griping penis, sheets, toes curling… and facial expressions that look like ecstasy rather than an elephant standing on your foot.

      Careful animation and good avatar proportions will make it possible to kiss it and move into a deep throat with lips sliding around things as they should… and make it look realistic. I doubt such animations will be for generic shapes and genitals. But, animations made for say Xcite! vaginas and penises… peni? … could figure out how to position the avatars in an Xcite! compatible bed. Losing all the manual avatar positioning would be great for spontaneous hookups.

  5. Well we wrote a FAQ for our site. Hehehehehehe. In it we , explain exactly why we chose that format as opposed to an in world book or a online flash book. Generally so pictures can be displayed better. I don’t think the average reader would need a style card on sex furniture, genitals etc… because they’ve seen it all and know it by sight.

    There are some very good sex anims out there and sex furniture and the best peni are adjustable on the fly via HUD. lol Many quality porn photogs shoot others having sex.

    You might need somebody to give you a tour of the sex industry in SL. (I’m not voluteering heheheheeheh; but I could introudce you to the right folks).

    Incidentally, Jennnnna Jameson (Emma) founded the Pornstars to help new pornstars find actual porn producers, directors, photogs, JOBS. You know. No one has ever thought to list sex places though. Ive always thought that noobs werent interested i n finding such places. I tried to pry a nooby friendly spot from Blondin Linden’s paws once years ago but Torley was still smarting from our lil tiff and put the kibosh on it lol

    • I read your FAQ. A couple of times. Nice reasons. But, does the site work for your readers? I find it awkward. But, I use Feedly and it gets me where I want to go in your site.

      I agree. There are good sex animations out there. I find them now and then. I look to see who’s animations are in the furniture I with animations I like. I expect Bento to start a new wave of animations. I think it will take time for those new ones to make it into furniture and spread through SL.

      I agree, there are good photographers concentrating on the photo and not involved in the sex act. I’m saying most of the porn I see is not that.

      I doubt a tour is going to show me anything I haven’t found… well, I’m sure some new places and things… but, still the stuff I’ve seen. From what I write, do you think I’ve missed something? That’s not a trick question.

      Blondin, Torley… Lindens… In 2011 and 2012 I was participating in the Adult Content User Group (ACUG) meetings. They were run by Viale Linden, who IMO pretty much killed off the user group. It has never recovered.

      Later in 2012 griefing problems in the Adult sandbox became a problem. Voodoo Redek was trying to get the Lab to appoint some ‘users’ as managers so griefers could be kicked faster. But, such causes seem doomed. The Lindens don’t want to deal with Adult sex stuff.

  6. Hello Natales

    Thanks for reviewing my blog, very nice.
    However, you have got the links wrong. The link to the comparison goes to the guide and the link to the guide goes to an old URL which redirects to the correct one.


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