That people meet in Second Life and later move to meeting in RL and form RL long term relationships is proof it is possible to surmount any limitations SL imposes.

An honest and sincere approach is probably the best approach possible. But, considering the above it should be obvious that how honest is a matter of the woman’s mood and her nature. That is the complication. How does one honestly find out a woman’s mood and nature? Especially when at any given time a woman’s mood may change everything.

Baby, love never felt so good by Priscila Olrich – Photographer ♥, on Flickr

There are environmental hints that give clues. A woman at a place named The Swingers Club is probably horny and looking to get laid. A more direct approach is probably in order. But, assuming she’ll do any breathing organism will up your chances of rejection. Don’t give her the impression she is a foregone conclusion.

A woman on a nude beach wearing a swimsuit is an enigma to be solved. A nude woman at a nude beach probably less so. While a direct request for sex may be more likely to work, the odds of a finessed approach is still much more likely to be found acceptable.

As Canary recommends, starting by walking up and asking if a woman wants to talk is about the best way to start. From there finding common points of interest as the conversation naturally develops should give one time to gauge her mood and nature.

Canary has an aversion against starting a conversation in private IM. true, some people will not like that approach. In clubs and busy places I think it is the preferred way of many. I expect it. However, it is impressive to be chatted up in local chat. The guy is confident enough to take the risk of possible embarrassment. Personally I like that.

Also, funny, novel pick up lines work well with some women. A couple have worked on me, at least to break the ice. The challenge is knowing what line is novel to which woman. There is little if any way to know what she will find funny until you know her. A guy takes his chances.

Saying ‘Hi’ is a nice enough opening. But, I and a number of my friends aren’t going to grant you many points for that opening. You’ll find many women, or men, figure if you started the conversation the burden is on you. Canary and I are both in that camp. So, we’ll answer ‘Hi’ back and wait to see what you have.

If you are a guy, I suppose you may wonder why women, beyond the risk factor stuff, are difficult and choosy. In my case whether it is in SL or RL I am considering whether a man is going to take the time and put in the effort to satisfy and be interested in me or just my sex. It takes some time and effort to get me off. I am trying to decide if he will put as much effort into his role play in SL and go beyond just his pleasure. I don’t always get it right. There are guys that get off and then immediately logoff…. Thanks, bye. That sucks and earns them a ‘never again’ note in their profile.

If a man is lazy about the pickup or not showing some interest in me, beyond his goal, I decide he probably isn’t going to be much good to me. If he shows little actual interest in me, I assume he is mostly self centered and I’m on to someone else. Also, I’ll often see what he does when I tell him no or disagree with him about something. Some men simply cannot handle not having their way or being the ‘authority’ on a subject. I don’t need to deal with those people.

The human mating dance is intricate, complex, and infinitely variable. It takes some effort and most importantly some thought. And we haven’t even started to talk about karma…